Rules is dictate adult.

 If are parents as a mother wants for first months a close to be with baby ,thus this time is not must to stay a long. As on 1-1.5 months baby need sleep in an own bed, thus for this since his first time since birth a put his bed a close to parents, as to low side. Thus, in a baby will be an own place and mum will close. And in a few time side return on a place , and bed slowly move from a parent s bed, and if are room s place allowing move his in an own room.  A very worried mum is a not allowing to leave a bay, and very long delaying his move. Thus in a few cases , a daughter will hard to agree to sleep separately. And a put hand on the heart, such mums are very happy, that theirs children's are not interesting leaving parent s bed , they are having habit to keep baby is under side and on the night. Remember: rules in any case putting are adult, children's just following theirs.

 And other reasons also having   reasons, that  children  are not want to sleep alone  are of fears, and children need to talk  with parents and discuss these moments, what they are fearing. In my practise a case, that boy on 11 y.old slept with parents , they are habit, nothing done, and not learned his to be in an own room and sleep. And any changes not helped to him, am offered for parent to change for sun a bed.And he needs  to select her. In the evening  his  bed stayed in his room , he slept in a new bed at own room. .On begin he slept with an opened door , in three days calm slept  in room, with closed  door. And other cases too having, just parents timely to broke symbiotic connection with children's . Symbiosis is an relationship built on a benefit, close interaction, one or both partners, like dissolving in each other, loosing an own me, and getting wish to receive a life for other.  Like loops in one merged in a one full.To  learn  right and own private borders and not destroy own borders in children. And last, importance psychologist. With a different , if you are not ability decided problem this, do not fear visit child s psychologist or family , we are meeting with different situations, and not always to know how to do. And help about a help not talk about your weakness, but about a force/Different peoples problem is one, but decides are individuality.

By A.Kondrahina,  correction  teacher, neuropsychologist, therapeutist teacher.