Tip of the iceberg.

 Many parents are meeting with problem, when children bite nails, and parents are sure in bad habit,and trying to re-educate children with strict remarks, or a few are hearing friend advices, buying bitter varnishes.And , its all a not simple, its,like  tip of an iceberg. Biting nails is a not just aesthetic problem, but a symptom noting, that children not ability to manage own emotions.

Its  a not boring, and not a wish to taste a nail, but a try to fight with tension, worry, overwhelming feels.For example children going to write a control work, from a result will depend on a rate for quarter,and  he is hide are feels, and instead for opening an own feels as worry, fear, angry,he is unconsciously selecting such method for self-regulation,which calms his, but unfortunately is harms for health. Why  he is doing it?And therefore a to express negative emotions are prohibited, and avoiding crying, its will laugh , angry and cry too bad will punish. And here alternative is nobody offered, and her children finds as independently. And understand importance, that nails looking bad, and nails will grow, and its fear,that children overwhelming and own feels and not giving for themselves a way out. Its child s strategy, looking ,like for a first is harmless,but on a true leading to serious results in future. Children,are regularity, chronically  overwhelming emotions, are growing insecure .And,  on an adult age they are hard communicating at collective, building relationships  with girl or boy ,and moving for carriers ladder. A typical example for overwhelming is unloved work for a low earning. But roots are going in far childhood, and on adult age to correct situation is hard, and for this a need much time and many  moneys, thus  an effective, and  easier ti learn children for a healthy method for expressions of emotions are today. And so, what  is to do,if children bites nails?

1. And understand as first its a not just bad habit,its a sign for inside problem, avoid being angry, scolding , punish, shame his.Its just increase worry, and more closures in themselves . A  better to many facture programs  for correcting situation, and here is her algorithm.

2. And close to children, very care, politely remove his hands from a face, hug him, kiss, stroke head, ask about a mood, what is worries him, and it's possible to discuss situation.

3. Re check his graphic, would he load by hobby, sections, and not need guests visited?very loaded holidays . Avoid all unnecessary , and on summer holidays not loading a mental work, but not a reading books by age.

4. Create for children a save space for emotions expressions. Give for him to understand, that his  feels  are very importance, he can ability share with a most intimate, and before to ask him, share to me about an all. Any stories. Its possible he will share with you a something bad, thus not panic, not angry, be calm, and offer help, as in stress leave as adult person.

5. Learn children to recognize and own emotions and to call theirs, would a fear worry him, or resentment? Maybe scratch a soul a filled of anger. And for these goals use cards with inscriptions, plays, books.And , still offer clear examples, that  a showing ,that enduring any emotions are normally. Look a boy from Eralash upset, that receive 2 points and cries, am also cried, when received bad points.

6. A tell for children ,that negative emotions are not bad, its a gift from our psychic.If we are having negative emotions, thus  we don't like something, and those peoples surrounding us are ability to help us or trying changing an own behaviour. Negative emotions avoid to hide, thus a filled tension within many times, will transfer in bad habits are biting nails, sucking finger, chewing gum. Read for children therapeutical histories about a children's, which are not need in biting nails.

History NR 1.

A boy, Vanja, left school, at home felt frustration, and mum looked on a face this sadness, both parents are asked:What is happened?Am lost my keys! Parents are not scolding a son, but calmed his:Yes,its true bad, but true fixable! Let s take grandma s keys, and on the weekend we are doing a duplicate..

 A how emotion of frustration helped him? Parents are understood, that for son is very sad, but not scolded him, but calmed, and offered a help.

History NR 2.

 Tanja played  with doll, and in doll tored off  leg, she could not fix leg bag, and true nervousness , she cried, screamed, and threw doll back in corner! A mum asked:What is happened?My dear Tanjusha, are you angry?She  answered:Yes, am angry, in my doll tored off  leg, an am nothing done! And mum offered a help to fix a doll, and when yiu are calming,am showing a how legs are attaching. A how angry emotion helped for Tanja? Mum is understood that daughter is angry from a help need, and fasted for help.

History NR 3.

 For  Vasja, from third class is called boy ,from parallelly class:Hey shorty, pick up lid -he screamed.Vasja not enjoyed it and on a calling he said before and all: Am not like, a how you are behaving , yes, am smaller by height, but nobody called also, like you . A   bully boy very wondered for his brave and never called him. A how emotion for discontent helped him? Offender, true wonder for Vasja s  brave and changed an own behaviour. And on the back case he would be continuate call him, and Vasja stayed dissatisfied. Discuss with children's these stories and learn his to do a same, thus you will down tension, and he will not need nails to bite. Offer for children alternative methods for tension fighting ,these are physical exercises, paining, sculpting, music, walking, if tension having in kindergarten as on a time for performance before students, thus advise  him to select in pocket are small balls. And of course,this advice ability doing and adults. If you  are worry  before auditorium, select in pocket something small, are balls, pins, buttons . If nothing helped you, visit specialist as for psychologist or psychiatrist. They  will help learn you to manage and learn with emotions and fighting anxiety!