Separate a guilt for equally.

 By Egides, candidate for psychologic science.

A speech about conflict-genesis we are ended  by psychologic test, thus a which expressions you are saying more?If they are staying under even numbers, you are easy leading understanding with other peoples, if you are enjoying for phrases under odd numbers, you  are high categorically in own judgments , and it's  leading to conflicts.

 Categorically.

 As on the lessong by a culture for communication in our club we are using such puzzle, as showing drawing for parallelepiped with two points on end faces /picture check/ and offering to define a shortening distance between them by ends of parallelepiped , and lots of peoples ANSWERING 42 CM, RIGHT ARE 40. Peculiarities this puzzle is such, that a wrong answer is a one possible, and even after explaining for decision are many keeping an own wrong opinion. But in life? Such is having seems a such, in speaking with relatives, friends, or colleagues is a good idea to remember about this. Self-confidence and categorically preventing for  understanding. Improving for microclimate in family, at working collectives  are ability nor for self-confidence, but a right as doubt in an own right, and leading to parity begins to discuss with peoples are interesting questions , and person appreciating a foreign opinion is always with benefit distinguishing from a that, who is not allowing to are minds, that  is probably not right. Category , non appellation are rising conflicts, thus to decide to say for daughter, that you not like her new friend, thus I think his is bad for you as for relation, not meeting with him!

 And not confusing category with, certainly . If person clear formulating and own position, thus nobody not will humiliate and insulted. In our example is hard  to say: Am sure, that your new friend is very self-confidence, he is judges about, than do not knew, maybe am wrong, but time will show. And in other situation: Am enjoying classical music, then a modern and a very good fan of modern rhythms will perceive is very good. And if to add a possible, that am not catching something in modern music, thus will add respect to interlocutor. Self-confidence person usually not limiting by abstract judgment. By psychologist, he's enjoying advising, studying, when a nobody not asking him, and surrounding this is negativity perceiving. A no t to advise, but advising is a way to understanding. 

Accusation.

 Accusation  is always conflicted , quarell is warming from trifle. And here is hubby broken cup by chance .

-You are very clumsy, all dishes are broken-wife is angry.

-That all is not staying on the place, at home, is not order.

-When am doing this ,am working since morning till evening.

— And you are never helping me.

And in result whole chain reaction of these prosecutions  mutual ending serious discords  in a family, thus  all accessions in family, and on work are access just in exceptional cases. And in situation, about which we are shared, for wife a better ,that not to see it , hubby s awkwardness, that cup he has broken by case. Or take a half guilt on oneself:Ah  again, am not put dishes on the place! And relations were not broken, and for health not harmful effect added. Every conflict, every quarrel  is psycho-emotional stress, as bad affecting on a vital importance systems and organs of an own organism. Without a critical mechanical if not possible, thus  direct his on the posture , but not for person. And in our example are most hubby s offends , and thus provokes his on the answer,  vineyard is word unsettled.