You are done all, that you are could.

 Oner day I saw, when a boy left house and kept in hand puppy, which given to him. He is true happy. First time to  walk with him. A close stayed parked car, and on this time a drive given back move  and puppy run to car s wheel, and puppy entered under wheel. Taken in hand,   children with tears tried to save   him. He breathed in him in mouth, and  clean from paws a blood. Am understood, that  he could not a puppy, and a m not ability left him. Sat on four, taken   him and hand and said:Am a doctor, let s together save his, you are breathing  in  his an air am to do  massage   of heart, and boy, pressed puppy to breast said, that   he is alive, alive..  We are cried together, but puppy is dead. Am sure this boy will grow as care, sensitive man and hope protector. But a how to calm for children on this moment?By Polina  Georgievna.

Thanks to  Polina,  for this touched mail, am also cried, redaction asked to comment his and am agree ,and a how would be a not   hard this theme. Author ,   for letter done right, she is not ignored tragedy in boy, and done all possible, that   injury of puppy lost or friend will be a not strong. Its calling emergency psychological help. And ,so they are both done for puppy artificial breath is a big help for children, that  she understood good, that  puppy is not saved. A dead for friend in family , which true ability wound a child, that  not depending on  from age, his affection will be a true and deep. And therefore , instead for tries are changing for new friend or distraction on the hobby  for us are adult a need to help to survive a lost. And remember to grieve is an importance stage in a process for receiving lost. A tries for avoiding tears and sadness, like a offering for care,on a true gives harmful. Not shown,  emotions are entering inside , potentially leading to psychosomatic  problems and neurotic symptoms in future. A child, not having a possible an open to show an own hurt, are  staying  for one to once with own experiences . So, a how to help for children to fight with a friend lost?

A decrease fault for guilt, and adults after his dead,are   filling minds:am not ability  saved him, am not enough tried, but a good example here shown by Polina.

He added for puppy reanimation help with boy, not feared   by blood, not pushed away, but allowed for boy stayed in moment, and tried saved puppy, that he must  will know: Am done, what i could. 

 If you are seeing, that children trying saving  a sicked , dead puppy, not touch him, not trying to interfere  his. Let s allow him to visit veterinary hospital, if puppy not saved, children will easy  realizing a fact :That we are done, what we are could.

Allow to grieve , and avoid saying, that not cry, we  will buy a news, he is a just animal! Recognize an importance for children s lost, say, that  I  See, a how is hard for you, we are near, we are together surviving it, allow for children to cry, angry, scream, it's  a real reaction on a hurt. Hug him, give for feel his your  support  and love.

Create a ritual for farewell.  Would be a good, if you are together will bury a puppy, and say for died dog a something on   goodbye: We are very much loved you, we will miss you, if children don't  want to say, thus not insist!

 Explain, that if the dog is dead, we are keeping feels, and theirs a need to show. A few adults, which are believed in resettlement of souls, are ability to say for children:that his soul is not dead, and he is all hears . A say or not say last phrase is keeping by parent's discretion, but for children s psychic is not harms. Sometimes circumstances developing a so, that children is not ability to say goodbye for dog as privately, when dog keeping at hospital or dead begin suddenly. And here is needing helping to survive a sorrow, to rely on feels expressions through creativity and remembering, and thus a dignity to say goodbye. A  for example offer to draw a dog dead, or think a story ,as with happy moments, when he appeared in a family,as what he has eaten? How is played? Slept?

Offer for children to think, which a gift he wants to do for dog for memory? If a such possible would be. Dream together. Which a gift by dog would be give for boy? It would be his favourite toy, clothes, photo, or plate for meal. Maybe its dried leaf, left after together walks If   children not want something material, offer to keep in his heart a most dear, close as beautiful moments about a time with his dog, and on this moment, when he will be a sad,he  is  always will restore it in memory.   Say about are feels, ask in son or daughter opened questions: What you are feeling now? Which you are remembering your dog? And not fast him, give a time for a show own feels.

 Attention take on his age, small children's are not understand for dead ending, explain, that dog gone for always, but his love and memory are keeping.

 Do not fast events and process, a surviving is a time needing, not wait, that  children to forget fast and stops to sad. Be patience and support him within all process. Importance, that children understand all his feels are importance, and he is not alone.

 Remember about positive moments, share for daughter or son about happy moments, tied with dog, remember, that sad and love are nor exclusive feels. 

Ask for help, if you are feeling, that self not ability fighting and not cope with situation, not shy to visit child s psychologists. Specialist will help for children   to survive this hard time and keep light remembering about an own pet. Specialist will learn for healthy methods are emotions showing. And remember, that showing feels its  a not dweeb you are , its  a natural process for lost getting and way to healing.

By 0. Samoylova ,  psychologist.